Love of your life

I hear this phrase all the time; people referring to their partners. What elements are necessary to be classed as the love of someone else’s life?

Is it someone that you agree with all the time and hang on to their every word? Is it someone that you have to go everywhere with and have the same interests? Is it someone that you defend to others when someone else is bad mouthing them?

Is it ok to disagree a lot and get heated? Is it alright that you can’t wait for them to get to work so that you have five minutes’ peace to gather your own thoughts again? Is it ok to spend time apart and enjoy your own company? Is it acceptable to let off some steam about them to a friend because they are driving you mad?

Everyone’s perceptions on this topic will vary. How often do you think you should need to have your own space? Is it acceptable to have your own set of friends which don’t overlap? Do you have to find the same interests?

Another interesting concept is how people compare their partners to previous ones. How is it possible to compare them when they are so different to each other? All of them will have some endearing qualities. Do people rank them hierarchically by considering who is the least annoying and who they argue with least?

Surely some argument and debate is healthy in a relationship. You are not always going to see eye to eye. I suppose it’s whether you can put those differences of opinion aside and not allow them to become obstacles that will guarantee whether someone can be classed as the love of your life…

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Funny how when someone asks you who you are, the first thing that pops into your head is what job you do. Well that’s what’s happened with me here, introducing this blog. Actually, let me say a bit about my personality first, as that’s more important! You can learn about my occupation later. Your occupation shouldn’t define who you are as a person! Should it? So, I am a 39 year old (beginning to feel anxious about the changes ahead coming!) I would describe myself as an empath and am very in tune with people’s feelings. I sense emotion very easily in people and if they are feeling anxious it sneaks up on my radar immediately. For the past 13 years, I have been in a relationship with someone who has increasingly suffered from anxiety and depression and that has taken its toll on me too. It’s not been easy to deal with the ups and downs that anxiety and depression provide the carers of the people suffering (who are told day by day that we don’t understand and don’t care about them), which simply isn’t true! Interestingly, or not, perhaps to you (I wouldn’t like to make presumptions) , I am also adopted. I have made a lot of progress over the years, managing to track down information about my past. I would be interested to hear from any other fellow adoptees about whether your scenarios are similar to mine or whether you “suffer” from the same character traits as I do. Well that’s a start to who I am. Perhaps you will want to find out more?

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